The truth? You can’t handle the change. Why Goals don’t manifest.

Time is required to manifest goals because of the time it takes us to make changes in our behaviour, thinking or habits. The reason our goals haven’t manifested is because our actions and habits are mismatched. Our habit and actions match our current reality perfectly. They don’t match the goal.

What’s more we don’t like change.

To change means moving out of our comfort zone. Even if we successfully stretched that comfort zone for one day. We snap back to what we know.

An example would overnight success. Suddenly we are a success and the next thought we have is, “how am I going to stay here?” Thrown out of the comfort zone. So we do everything we can go get back into our comfort zone. Which isn’t much. We just go back to our habitual behaviours and responses. If we want to keep that success we have to make changes.

But Alex. I suffer from anxiety. Who wants to be anxious when they can be confident? Wouldn’t the experience of overnight success be enough to make the change permanent? Why can’t I just get rid of it overnight?

Being a person with anxiety and being a person without anxiety requires a different way of thinking. It’s easier to accept thinking the way we know than it is to adopted a changed way of thinking. It is what we know. We are comfortable with what we know and fall back into the habitual thinking pattern.

We have habits to help us stay in the status quo.

It is a habit. The other way of thinking is what is unknown and the unknown is dangerous because we don’t know how it affects everything else in our lives. Habits are designed to keep us in a safe routine. Even an anxious person has methods and techniques for coping.The uncertainty of how this new mindset affects other areas and our coping techniques makes it easier to stay with the original behaviour than to change it.

Without a change in thinking everything comes back to what you know. No matter how successfully you were at convincing yourself that you are going to do it once and for all. If you had to adopt the changed way of thinking overnight it would terrify you and habits wouldn’t let you stop your old way of thinking that quickly.

If you want to change, do it with intention but expect it slowly.

Lasting change is a gradual process. It’s not once and for all. It’s once, again and again and again and again… till it becomes a habit and you’re still doing it again and again..

Your fairy godmother can’t wave a magic wand and manifest your goals for you because something in your behaviour needs to change so you may keep that gift. The longest it will be in your reality without a change on your part is the length of time you give thought or daydream about the wish. So you need to change, the way you think, behave or certain habits if you want to manifest your goals.

Visualisation isn’t enough without a change in behaviour. The reason you visualise daily is to slowly make changes without arguing with your current habits. To let them change unnoticed.

To reach your goals it means you actually have to do something different. For for example, if you want to improve your PhotoReading skills. You cannot just look at book and try it once, then say it doesn’t work. PhotoReading is a skill and it takes time to develop the skill. So even if you learn it in a day you need to use it daily to make it a habit. Just knowing you could get your reading done faster if you applied the PhotoReading skill doesn’t automatically mean that you will do it. We are creatures of habit so while we know PhotoReading is faster we still go back to slow poke reading because we need to change

If you haven’t manifested your goal then you need to make a change somewhere. If you want to master PhotoReading, If you want to lose weight, If you want increase your wealth. You need to adopt behaviours have what you desire. If you want to be a proficient PhotoReader you need to make PhotoReading a daily habit like successful PhotoReaders do. If you want to lose weight you have to change your lifestyle to match that of a slim person. If you want wealth, you need to make changes in the way you handle money.

If you keep doing exactly what you are doing now you’ll continue to get exactly the same results. Something has to change in your behaviour if you want to see your goals manifest. Behaviour cannot be changed once and then be considered set. So it stands to reasons your goals will also take more than a day to manifest.

To manifest your goal you must change. It takes 21 to 60 days to change a habit. Adopting a new habit means stretching the bounds of your comfort zone. Is your goal worth it?

What if manifesting your goal meant that the change you have to make is spend less time reading blogs and more time acting like the person who has manifested the goal?

It’s your choice.
© Alex K Viefhaus